5 Things You Can Do To Increase Your Chances Of Getting Some

The list is long and full of exciting ways to connect and feel closer to one another. Here are a few ideas that my clients have utilized to ignite a spark:

1.  Express gratitude! It’s easy to remember the ways in which your partner pushes your buttons, but that gets us nowhere, fast. What happens when you feel appreciated? You are open and willing to do even more. Send a quick text and let them know that taking the trash out saved you time this morning and you appreciated it, or that you are grateful for how they picked up dinner when you didn’t feel like cooking. The tiniest effort to show gratitude opens doors that will take you places you will definitely want to be!

2.  Laugh together! Studies show when you share some laughter with your partner, it strengthens the connection between the two of you. It acts as glue to connect and bind you and that is always a good thing. In fact, the Gottman Institute states that humor can help to close the divisive feelings and ease tension. Just be careful to leave the sarcasm for another time, that could send you in the opposite direction of where you are headed.

3.  It’s the little things! People tend to think that relationships are built on big moments like the first kiss, the first date, the engagement, the wedding…NOPE! The small everyday nuggets of goodness create and maintain trust and your firm foundation from which you need to continue to build upon every single day. When your partner reaches out to give you a hug or hold your hand, you have a choice. You can either engage or not. If you accept the invitation and kiss them back or hold their hand, you are adding positive reinforcement and placing another building block on that forever foundation you are collectively constructing. So amp up the smooching, the hand holding, the helping one another out, get in there and make an honest effort.

4.  Send an unexpected text during the day that sparks a lil’ fire! Tell him/her how hot they are or how excited you are to see them naked later. You might be surprised at how fast a 30 second text here and there can start to change your world for the better between the sheets.

5.  Schedule some time with me and together we can create a plan to achieve your relationship goals.

I have an abundance of ideas in my Couple’s Tool Box and I am excited to share many more with you.